One of the presuppositions of NLP is that everyone is doing the best that they can with the resources that they have available. In other words, our behaviour and the behaviour of others is the best that we can all do in that moment. This, quite frankly, seemed hard to accept when I see so […]
Life is so much easier if you get along with the people around you. It makes the good times sweeter. Conversely, it helps you get through the bad times with a little less pain. Creating those positive connections seems to happen without any real action. However, you are almost certainly aware of those people who’ve
I am, like most coaches, keen for you to succeed. Consequently, I work with you as you make your plans, establish your goals, and then get out there to make it happen. Once you do this, there are three outcomes in life: success, feedback or failure. Pick one now. There will be times when you
It would be great if we could keep fear and phobia, anxiety and distress, out of childhood, or at least the more extreme forms which become debilitating and limiting. It’s concerning that mental health services are overwhelmed and waiting lists for support and treatment continue to grow. And it’s particularly worrying for parents, who see
I recently found myself reading a number of articles about how to improve on a budget the look of your home. Ideas ranged from painting a feature wall to dying your bedding. It all seemed so easy. It struck me that life can be a bit like that. We can make some superficial changes which
There is a plethora of self-help books, articles, websites and the like out there. The vast majority genuinely want to assist change and support people into making those changes as quickly and painlessly as possible. Many perpetuate the myth that it takes 21 or possibly 30 or possibly some other random number of days to
You trust your memories. You rely on your senses to inform you about the world around you. Crucially, you trust your mind, both conscious and unconscious to process and store all that’s happening. Additionally, you assume that when you think about the past, you’re presented with an accurate representation. Yet, nothing could be further from
A while ago, I read an article about millennials. It was not very complimentary, with recurring themes of entitlement and laziness. Who, I wondered, are these dreadful people? It turns out that millennials are those born between 1981 and 1996, and it seems that being born between those years makes you, according to some, the
Some past events just won’t go away. You think they’re gone, something happens, and suddenly back in the moment. You immediately experience those powerful negative emotions as you revisit the terrible events which you just can’t forget or forgive. Indeed, the events may be such that it’s more a case of won’t forgive or forget.
One of the presuppositions of NLP is that there is no failure, only feedback. The premise is that if you view those results which are different from what you wanted as feedback rather than failure, you can learn from what you did and then do better. It’s a great notion. It flips your understanding on