It would be great if we could keep fear and phobia, anxiety and distress, out of childhood, or at least the more extreme forms which become debilitating and limiting. It’s concerning that mental health services are overwhelmed and waiting lists for support and treatment continue to grow. And it’s particularly worrying for parents, who see […]
I recently found myself reading a number of articles about how to improve on a budget the look of your home. Ideas ranged from painting a feature wall to dying your bedding. It all seemed so easy. It struck me that life can be a bit like that. We can make some superficial changes which
There is a plethora of self-help books, articles, websites and the like out there. The vast majority genuinely want to assist change and support people into making those changes as quickly and painlessly as possible. Many perpetuate the myth that it takes 21 or possibly 30 or possibly some other random number of days to
You trust your memories. You rely on your senses to inform you about the world around you. Crucially, you trust your mind, both conscious and unconscious to process and store all that’s happening. Additionally, you assume that when you think about the past, you’re presented with an accurate representation. Yet, nothing could be further from
A while ago, I read an article about millennials. It was not very complimentary, with recurring themes of entitlement and laziness. Who, I wondered, are these dreadful people? It turns out that millennials are those born between 1981 and 1996, and it seems that being born between those years makes you, according to some, the
Some past events just won’t go away. You think they’re gone, something happens, and suddenly back in the moment. You immediately experience those powerful negative emotions as you revisit the terrible events which you just can’t forget or forgive. Indeed, the events may be such that it’s more a case of won’t forgive or forget.
One of the presuppositions of NLP is that there is no failure, only feedback. The premise is that if you view those results which are different from what you wanted as feedback rather than failure, you can learn from what you did and then do better. It’s a great notion. It flips your understanding on
Do you have hopes and aspirations, dreams and ideas, about a future which is exciting and compelling? Are you letting doubt, a lack of self-belief, the opinions and judgements of others and yourself, stop those hopes, aspirations, dreams and ideas from even starting? Are you shying away from paying for support for fear of the
The idea of perfectionism is fairly easy to understand; striving to do everything in a way which is perfect, flawless, without error. And I’m sure we all know people who are perfectionists, for whom second-best simply will not do. It all seems harmless enough and, is there anything wrong with wanting everything to be just
There are lots of misconceptions about hypnosis. You suddenly lose your free will and become subject to the power of the hypnotist. Some think that only the gullible can be hypnotised. Others suggest that it’s only for the weak-minded. And the list goes on. The reality is that you’re always in control and all that