I am, like most coaches, keen for you to succeed. Consequently, I work with you as you make your plans, establish your goals, and then get out there to make it happen. Once you do this, there are three outcomes in life: success, feedback or failure. Pick one now.
There will be times when you do something that you’ve not done before. Of course, it may work out fine the very first time that you do it, and that’s great. If, however, you get a different result to the one you wanted, what do you do? The general wisdom is to try again. “If at first you don’t succeed, try, try again”. At least, that’s how the saying goes. And I guess that there’s nothing really wrong with trying again. There is, though, everything wrong with trying again, so let me explain.
If you try again, you may simply repeat the same erroneous steps and end up with the same result. Alternatively, you may give up, consoling yourself with the notion that “at least you tried”, and giving yourself a false sense of achievement. It’s almost as if there is a second place. First place for those who did it and got what they wanted. Last place for those who didn’t even start and definitely don’t have what they want. And a consolation second prize for those who did something which didn’t work out. Yay! You tried… and you still don’t have what you want.
So, now is the time to stop giving it a try, or having a go, or trying. Instead, think about it another way. Decide to do it or decide not to do it. Be bold and resolute either way. If you decide to do it, commit to doing it. That’s to say, leave the trying for others and be the one that does it.
If it works out, celebrate what you’ve done. You decided to do it and you did it. If you get a different outcome, don’t try again. Stop. Firstly, work out what worked and do more of that. Secondly, work out what could have been better and do it better. And finally, do it. And when you’ve done it, celebrate what you’ve done.
Of course, you may reach a point where you just cannot get to where you want to be. In which case, celebrate your progress. Celebrate all that you have done. Recognise all that you have learned. Acknowledge that you’ve moved forward. Remember, there is no such thing as failure, only feedback. Then decide what you want to do next. And do it!
If you know what to do next, make it happen. Alternatively, if you’re not sure, book an initial consultation here, and then take the next step. You know that you can do it, and you know that it makes sense, don’t you?
