It sometimes surprises me how much therapy some people go through to address their problems. For some, it is the only way that they can move forward. They have a genuine need to resolve the past before they can think about the future. Occasionally, I meet people for whom continuing therapy has become something of […]
It’s today! Today A-Level results are released. A time of celebration for some. Less so for others. Crucially, a turning point for many. Those grades confirm university choices, job offers, the start of apprenticeships. Essentially, options open up. Conversely, for some, the choices become fewer. Whatever the outcome today, though, there are fifty years ahead
While at times it may not feel like it, everything in life really is a choice. Obviously, not all of the options open to us are great, and at times it can feel like picking the lesser of two, or more, evils. Even in the darkest of moments when it feels like all is lost,
If you’re reading this blog on the day it’s published, schools are about to start the long summer break. Unless, of course, you’re in Scotland. In which case, the school holidays started a few weeks ago. It’s always a strange time. Traffic suddenly gets quieter in the mornings. Workplaces are less busy as parents juggle
Many of us have things from the past which cause us angst. Some park the issues and move on. Others get stuck, held back by what appears to be unresolvable. Most, I think, sit somewhere between the two; troubled by the past yet moving forward in some form or another. The past can, though, be
Many of us make decisions in our late teens and into our early twenties which have an effect on the next thirty, forty or even fifty years of our lives. For some, this works out well, and I know many who are reaping or have reaped the rewards of those early decisions. Others struggle to
People have many reasons for avoiding plans and goals. A recurring reason is the fear of failure. Some see setting a goal or making a plan as a commitment which you either achieve or you do not. You succeed or you fail. Success may be great. Failure, on the other hand, is a disaster, worthy
It’s a strange feeling when you look at your life and wonder how you got here. You vaguely recall having some idea of what life would look like. However, you never really got beyond that stage. Plans and goals were for others. You prefer to go with the flow and see what life sends your
Addiction is such a strange thing. I doubt that anyone sets out to become addicted. And yet, so many become addicted to something. Indeed, at times it feels like we can become addicted to anything. Because addiction is that inability to stop, that inability to retake control. Addiction is that overwhelming desire to continue with
Many of us form ideas of what we want to do in the world of work when we are still at school. We make decisions around which subjects to study, and where to study them. Following on from this, we choose when to continue studying and when to start work. Suddenly, we’re on a career