One of the presuppositions of NLP is that there is no failure, only feedback. The premise is that if you view those results which are different from what you wanted as feedback rather than failure, you can learn from what you did and then do better. It’s a great notion. It flips your understanding on […]
Do you have hopes and aspirations, dreams and ideas, about a future which is exciting and compelling? Are you letting doubt, a lack of self-belief, the opinions and judgements of others and yourself, stop those hopes, aspirations, dreams and ideas from even starting? Are you shying away from paying for support for fear of the
The idea of perfectionism is fairly easy to understand; striving to do everything in a way which is perfect, flawless, without error. And I’m sure we all know people who are perfectionists, for whom second-best simply will not do. It all seems harmless enough and, is there anything wrong with wanting everything to be just
There are lots of misconceptions about hypnosis. You suddenly lose your free will and become subject to the power of the hypnotist. Some think that only the gullible can be hypnotised. Others suggest that it’s only for the weak-minded. And the list goes on. The reality is that you’re always in control and all that
You may have many goals and plans. Alternatively, you might only have one or two. And, of course, you could well be one of those people who simply drifts through life, going with the flow. Success may follow your actions. Consequently, you feel at ease with life and the balance you achieve as success weaves
It’s a sobering and undeniable fact. We are all going to die eventually. On a personal level my aim is to live as long as possible. Ideally, I want to die with my boots on, frustrated by the realisation in those final moments that I have unfinished plans. And I genuinely hope that your life
“All the world’s a stage, And all the men and women merely Players; They have their exits and their entrances, And one man in his time plays many parts, His Acts being seven ages.” These opening lines from a monologue in Shakespeare’s As You Like It compare the world to a stage, and life the
Victory, success, is a strange thing. It can be something we crave, and it can be something that we routinely achieve. Alternatively, it is sometimes something that eludes us, leaving us feeling frustrated. And, of course, there are those occasions when what initially feels like defeat is actually a victory in disguise. The reality is
People avoid making plans and setting goals for all sorts of reasons. There is, though, in my experience a recurring reason. Some take the view that once you’ve set the plan in motion or started working towards your goal, you have to see it through. And this will lead to one of two outcomes; success
A while ago I was doing a couple of courses, both of which involved a bus ride from central Manchester and passed through the university area. It was, of course, packed with students. Adult life for most of them was just beginning, and university was the first step towards the life that they want for