It’s been a week of change in the USA. The mid-term elections have led to change in the political landscape. Unsurprisingly, there’ve been many questions about what motivated the voters. Was it a rejection of what had gone before? Alternatively, was it a desire for something different? Certainly, it will generate debate for a while. It did, though, get me thinking. If you’re making changes, or thinking of making changes, where is your focus? The reality is that for best results, you focus powerfully on everything you want.
It’s very easy to focus on what you don’t want. The rubbish job. Your lousy relationship. Those fair-weather friends. Additionally, you hate being fat, old, unhealthy, tired, bored, directionless.
It’s so easy to focus on the negatives and wish for something better. All too often, though, the motivation comes from what you don’t want. And there you go. From one dodgy relationship to the next. Jumping from one unfortunate job to the next. Following one faddy diet after another. And better not look in the cupboards, loft and garage, for there lies a trail of abandoned hobbies and interests, all driven by not wanting to be bored.
Obviously, it’s very easy to get in the trap. You realise that now, or an aspect of now, is horrible. You are so not enjoying it. Suddenly, you’re taking steps to get away. Steps to move away from the horribleness.
Unfortunately, if all you’re doing is moving away from what you don’t want, you can end up anywhere. Potentially, it could be somewhere better. Realistically, it could be just as had or even worse than where you were before.
Critically, not wanting something can be a motivator. At least to start with. Sadly, once you move a little bit away from what you don’t want, the pain of the unwanted begins to fade, along with the motivation.
Essentially, working out what you actually want is the all-important first step. You know where you are now, and you know that your current now is not working.
So, where do you want to be? The job that’s not working. Identify what it is you don’t like. The hours? What about the money? How about the people? Or, is it all about the actual work? Whatever the issue, now look to what you want. And it has to be what you want.
It can take time to work out what you want. This is partly the result of it being so easy to work out what you don’t want, because that’s what’s happening right now. And you don’t like it.
There are lots of ways to work out what you want. Certainly, it’s something I do with clients all of the time. And if you want to book an initial consultation, you can do so here.
However you get there, once you know exactly what you, it is then the time to make a plan. Set the plan in motion, focusing on what you want. Because your focus is on what you want, the motivation remains high.
Additionally, set backs seem less problematic because you have your eye on the prize, and you can overcome.
Obviously, things may go awry. You, though, know what you want and you’re heading in the direction of what you want. Importantly, that is where you are directing all of your energy.
And that matters. Just like the athlete at the start of the 100m final. Every last drop of energy is focused on the finish line. The good news for you is you have more than 10 or so seconds to get there. You can up the pace and you can slow down.
You know that you are getting there. If you know what to do next, do it now. Of course, if you’re not sure, book an initial consultation, and then take the next step. You know that you can do it, and you know that it makes sense, don’t you?
