You think that life has routine, and that feels OK. There is order to your life. And we learn from childhood that routine and consistency is good. Additionally, we all tend to be creatures of habit. Equally, you find change difficult. Challenging. Even distressing. Times of chaos and upheaval come and go. Eventually, it feels so good to be back into what you know and value. Your comfort zone. And then, suddenly, it all begins to feel very much the same. More and more of the same. A never-ending cycle of sameness. You barely realise that it’s happened. Yet, here you are. And, I wonder, how deep does it have to be before you realise that you’re stuck in a rut?
When life gets complicated, routine can be and often is an absolute saviour. You know that feeling, juggling work, family, friends, life. There is never seemingly enough time for everything and everyone. Routine allows us to plan and predict. Obviously, there are times when life throws a curveball. Fortunately, that very predictable pattern of life means that you can cope. Just about.
Importantly, you may well be one of those people who craves and loves the safeness of routine and knowing what comes next. A well-ordered life may be exactly what you want. Today is today and this is what you do today. And what you do tomorrow can wait until then.
Alternatively, you could be one of those who loves change. Life is only worth doing if there is variety. Which, apparently, is the spice of life. You are in your element when it’s all happening. Less so when it’s not.
Possibly, you have started to realise that it’s all feeling the same. That routine of work, family, friends, life. Everything the same and predictable. A well-ordered pattern that not so long ago was feeling good. Suddenly, for some reason, it’s not enough.
Critically, when you reach that realisation, you are at a crossroads. On one hand, you can sink into that sense of sameness, stuck in what feels like an ever-deeper rut. On the other hand, you can see it as an opportunity to reevaluate what matters to you, what really matters, and what does not.
Firstly, if you opt to stay stuck, believing that there is no viable way out, you can change your mind. Now may be the time to carry on as you are. Later may be when you can do something differently.
Secondly, if you are ready to change or at least ready to consider change, remember the importance of taking a step back. Essentially, take a step out of your routine, work out what matters and what you want to do differently, and then do it. At least, make a plan. Because you can plan for now and you can plan for later. Importantly, making the plan is what matters. A well-formed plan or goal, as I’ve talked about many times, directs your unconscious mind to bring options and solutions into your awareness.
Thirdly, the only bad move is pretending that it is all OK when really it is not. And you know it is not. A huge step is acknowledging that it is not OK. And then next huge step may be accepting that now is just not the time to make changes. Own it. Be honest. Above all else, if you’re not being honest about it all the only loser is you.
Finally, no rut is so deep that you can’t get out. If you want it, you make it happen. Again, how honest are you being with yourself?
So, if you know what to do, take the next step. If you’re not sure, book a free initial consultation here, and then take the next step. You know that it makes sense, and you know that you can do it, don’t you?