Most of us have a variety of people in our lives. Friends. Family. Colleagues. Partners. The list goes on. Hopefully, some, if not all, of those people bring value. And I’m sure you know who they are. There will also be those who are in your life who you kind of wish were not. Again, I’m sure you know who they are too. Sadly, it’s not always easy to get rid of those who add no value. Contrarily, we sometimes hold on to people because it just feels too complicated to lose them. Equally, we very often get on with life and the people in our lives without really thinking about the value that those people add. So, are the people adding value to your life and, what happens when they’re not?
There will be people that you spend a lot of time with. Your friend group, your work colleagues, your family. Similarly, there are sure to be people that come and go. Those groups may overlap, and they may not. Possibly, there are friends you see all the time and some you see less frequently. Both friendship groups may be equally valuable. Likewise, you may have family you see all of the time and some you see less often. For many of us, our work colleagues may well be the one constant, people we see all the time.
Obviously, you may be one of those people who gets on with everyone. You could well see value, however big or small, in all of those relationships which make up your life. If this is the case, keep on doing what you’re doing.
Alternatively, you may at times look at the people in your life and wonder what they bring to the party. How, you think, did you park yourself in my life?
Unsurprisingly, if you want to make changes you first need to work out what’s working and what could be working better. Secondly, when it comes to relationships, it can be easy to understand who adds value and who does not. It can be a lot more challenging to make any changes.
Thirdly, you may be able to ditch people and you may not. However, you can change how you see those people. Hold those who bring value closer. Put space between you and those who do not. Seek out alternatives.
Curiously, that can be the hardest. Seeking new people can be a challenge. Explore new hobbies and interests. Get involved in something you feel passionate about. Make time to make it happen.
Interestingly, one thing that you can easily do is release the headspace which the valueless are occupying. You may well realise that those who don’t add value take up far too much of your mental time. Why, you should ask, are you doing this to yourself? Letting go may be the best step you ever take!
So, if you know what to do next, do it now. If you’re not sure, book an initial consultation here, and then take the next step. You know that you can do it, and you know that it makes sense, don’t you?