Victory, success, is a strange thing. It can be something we crave, and it can be something that we routinely achieve. Alternatively, it is sometimes something that eludes us, leaving us feeling frustrated. And, of course, there are those occasions when what initially feels like defeat is actually a victory in disguise. The reality is that many of our defeats are the result of us giving up, and some of us give up before we’ve even taken the first step. So, remind yourself: victory really starts when all self-doubt ends
You can have the greatest of ideas. Those ideas may take the form of a plan which is both exciting and compelling. Additionally, you feel very motivated. The vision of where you want to be is hugely appealing. And then nothing happens. You somehow talk yourself out of taking action. You’re very good at doing this. You’re not bright enough. People like you don’t have this kind of success and future.
You limit yourself and your world. Consequently, you live in an ever-decreasing world, your beliefs limiting your options and choices. Worryingly, you may not even realise that you’re doing this because you’ve been doing it for so long. From the outside looking in, your inaction perplexes others as they are aware of the opportunities that you allow to pass you by.
Furthermore, the accumulation of bad experiences restricts you. You allow the memory of bad emotional experiences to impact on your choices. Again, you may end up doing this without realising, blinkered by those previous experiences. Moreover, limiting beliefs, formed at any time, hold you back.
Critically, because those limited beliefs are held on an unconscious level you don’t realise what you’re doing. Those thoughts of not being good enough, worthy enough, bright enough, strong enough go unchecked. It gets to the point where you simply fail to see what’s out there and what could lead us to a better, brighter future.
Curiously, you let this happen with mistaken reasons linked to keeping yourself safe. At times you blame others, wishing you could hold them to account for how their behaviour has affected you. As if that would make any difference.
What now? Firstly, ask yourself if you recognise and understand how you are limiting yourself. Give yourself time to honestly assess where you are in life. Secondly, consider what might happen if you suddenly found yourself open to new possibilities and choices. Just imagine what you want to do next. Again, given yourself time to think. Thirdly, be kind to yourself. You’ve gained new information and new realisations. Painfully, you may realise all that you have missed. Acknowledge that. Finally, make it happen and do it now.
If you know what to do to take the next step, do it now. If you’re not sure, book an initial consultation here, and then take the next step. You know that you can do it, and you know that it makes sense, don’t you?
